Meeting the right people, in the right place, at the right time ... learn from them new things, adapt and move one

Learning does not always mean learning from books or being educated by an institution or person; learning is also a way of adapting to constant new life experiences, taking lessons out of every experience, learning from others, learning from people´s successes or failures, learning from your own successes or failures.

Most of the time for me, the best lessons are those taken from life experiences and from people.

I learned a lot in schools, I learned a lot in the working environment and from books, but the most valuable lessons are the ones learned from mistakes, from failures, from successes and the ones taken from people around me.

Having great people around me, choosing the right ones and keeping them close it is not always an easy task but as I always say: “It is possible” With little effort, everything is possible – it´s all about choices.

Who you are today is defined by the choices you took in the past and if you don´t like who you are today, then make conscious choices for changing something in the future.

This week I feel like I could talk about a lot of things but when starting to write down, there is nothing.

I though felt good this week sharing with very good friends, opinions and advices about life and people. I learned that no matter how good I think I am, I´m never good enough to stop learning. I have met friends I wish I could take them with me back home or sometimes I wish I could bring home in here. I thought I learned that I want to be in only one place and I thought I know where that place is, but it all changed when I less expected.

I always want something new but having something new does not always mean really having it. It´s weird how all this happen; sometimes is even difficult to stop feeling weird bout how all can turn around and change my life ´almost´ completely … but that´s life right?

Learning and just knowing the things, it´s not enough and will never be enough. That is why with every learning experience WE change, we move in different directions, we shift from unknown to known … but while being in the known does not always mean we do know the known. We have to start over … again and again … learn new things, adapt and move one; learn new things, adapt and move one; learn new things … … it never stops!

learn new things, adapt and move one

and meantime remember to enjoy it!

Gabriela

Life is all about sharing … a life lesson from traveling to Bali, Indonesia

What would life be, if we only live to enjoy it all alone?

People nowadays pretend to believe that if they secure their own place in this world, everything will be fine. They then get what they want but they start realizing how less they actually have and how alone and sad their life is…and this is because they do not care about sharing.

Life is not always fair because there are enough people suffering in this world, but if you are a kind of person who happen to be enough lucky to enjoy life fully, do not ever forget to share it.. Maybe also with people that are less lucky then you are.

I sometimes feel so grateful for the life I have, for the life I build for myself, for the simple fact that I was lucky enough to be born and grow up in a place where the access to a lot of opportunities and choices is not limited. I never felt as grateful as I do now. Having the great chance to live in different parts of this world really opened my vision, my perspective in life and I start seeing things differently. 

I was born in Romania; I lived there for about 20 years until I decide it is time for me to see and experience something different. While living in Romania, it always felt like my life is limited, that life is unfair and that the way people live their life is by just accepting living it the way the whole community does. I never felt free enough to be myself and do things the way I thought is worth doing it. And that is because I never find it possible or even acceptable. I used to live in a small community where people care a lot about what others think on everyone else. You do have the choice to be different but you never choose to be different because you are afraid of criticism, of people thinking you are wrong; and I do not mean people thinking you are wrong by what you say or do but by the way you are. I used to care a lot! …

Now, sometimes I am worried that I don´t care anymore that much!  

But what changed? Why do people change? Why "I" changed?

What really changed me was the fact that I now see the world as a whole and stop seeing it as a small box. My community, the place I was living in, was the small box. I never dared to think out of that box. But not necessary because I was banned by doing so, but because even people living there their whole life, never want to see outside the box or never dare, or even think that there is a whole new world outside that little box. When you do break through, when you start seeing the whole world as being your community, you realize you have access to more options, to choices, to experiences that can change you completely.

I start watching people living outside my little box and I start learning, I start growing, I start not only improving but understanding myself. I do not criticize my life anymore, instead I understand it better. People, who feel trapped in a single place, are people who do not want to break through the little box. This step of taking a stand and start thinking outside of the box is sometimes scary and really challenging. But what would life be without challenges?

“Yeah, that´s so great, you´re so lucky” is what people usually use to excuse their own life or choices…that being the unforgettable phrase that most of the people is using it. Not that this is bad, but it is bad when they continue with beliefs like: “but I can´t do it … I am not so lucky” … I so much don´t like it when people say that. Most would think that I am and have what I have just because I am lucky! That´s so wrong people! That is because I made choices that secured these outcomes. It’s always about choices.

Why I choose then to change constantly, or what makes me change/grow all the time ... are new experiences, new life experiences! We all experience something new every day, if we would be able to learn something out of everything, we would constantly enrich our life with joy and happiness.

Now I live for a while in Indonesia … in the great little paradise, in Bali. I came here with work but it feels sometimes more holiday than work. But I do not want to talk in this article about work … I want to talk about how a place like Bali can change you a lot. Maybe it is not only because of Bali, but because of all combined experiences I have had until this time.

Every time I travel somewhere, I get that instinct of seeing the world differently. Of really experiencing changes that questions my way of defining and judging live. I always learned something new from my experiences and this one is one of the experiences placed on the top of all I have ever had. When I mean Bali, I mean People, Culture, Traditions, Life Style, People, Food, Religion and Beliefs, People … oh I did mention People … but at the end, all of these are created, respected and given forward by People! It´s all about that in my perspective!

I suppose you heard about the “OCEAN” concept on Personality traits? About the Big Five factors and their constituent traits summarized as “OCEAN”? (Psychology stuff!) … Well, I´m approaching this concept because I believe that when it comes to Balinese People, they are the TOP achievers in mastering all these traits. The “OCEAN” concept derives from Openness, Conscientiousness, Extroversion, Agreeableness and Neuroticism. I don’t want to go too deep into explaining psychology but in short I believe that Balinese people know very well how to combine and master well most of these traits.

When it comes to their culture, they are very open and efficient, they show a lot of appreciation toward art, toward emotions and adventures, toward variety and the efficient part speaks to the way of showing self-discipline toward all the above. When it comes to their community, they are and act like a big family, they are energetic and full with positive emotions, and they are compassionate and very cooperative toward others, especially towards member in their own community but also foreigners. This culture is one of the single cultures I´ve been living in, where as a foreigner I feel very protected, respected and welcomed. And I lived in many different cultures, foreign countries in Europe. I never felt like this, not even in my own country!

Here people are simple, most of them are poor but what I love about them is that they never feel poor. Because being poor here means something different then back in Europe. In Europe, being poor means not having enough financial resources based on which to make life enjoyable; in Indonesia, at least here in Bali, people don´t care that much about their financial situation but about life in general: they make sure they have good relationships with each other, with their community, with their Gods, they make sure they inspire and offer love to people around them, they believe that BEING HUMAN is being RICH, rather than being rich by having money. Once a very good local friend told me that she knows people here that own lots of properties and make lot of money but working as taxi drivers. And that is because they care about what they do as a profession and if that kind of work makes then happy, they choose it. Here people don´t spend money on THINGS as much as they spend on making sure they are healthy and happy, spending on making sure they enrich their life with love and joy.

In Europe, we care so much about what other people think about us, we care so much on having as much money as possible, but we forget to care being humans, being careful with each others, we forget SHARING, and so it is how we lose our soul. We spend our whole life fighting and reaching to be rich and famous … but what for?

Actually, I believe that no matter how rich or famous we may become, we will always fight for more and more and more. There is never going to be a limit because there is no limit we set for ourselves or because there is no limit people expect us to reach. We and people around us will always expect more…always!

So, for me, what can be greater than this lesson I learned from people of Bali, from Indonesians? Maybe more lessons to come, for sure … but this is a lesson I want to adopt for myself! This can be a lesson of sharing, maybe inspiring others as well J

    

Feel inspired, Learn to Share and Love ... and so you secure a place in people’s heart.

Gabriela

Challenges (part 2)

I write in my previous article information related to the idea of facing challenges and what do they represent as meaning for our own life. I do not think I have a definition for it or that my answer or idea I wrote about would be the perfect one, but I like to relate each topic to my own life experience and the way I see things. I agree with other people opinions, I believe I am open-minded when it comes to explaining and accepting a certain point of view. What it bothers me most, is the way people relate to each other when it comes to giving an advice. I experience the most outrageous comments that people try to define as their perfect way of seeing things, mostly when they try to misjudge others opinion or make them feel stupid for the way they see things. Most people do not understand that life is being seen differently from everybody´s perspective. If success for me means the way I achieve goals and the level of satisfaction I feel I reach, for others can have a different connotation or it can be defined totally different.

If there is something I so much appreciate to the way, for e.g. Danes lives their life, is the liberty to which they express and relate their imagination, goals and life achievements. The priorities they set and the extent to which they find this life being worthy (this involving the way they feel about their way of deciding, less based on what other think about them).

What makes us sometimes unhappy is the way we think people see us, the way people judge what we are, what we do, what we achieve or not. We make us unhappy only by comparing our life with the ones we perceive as being better that us, having done things in life that are in a better way appreciated than those of ours.

When I achieve a goal, I am happy; but happiness and the feeling of satisfaction remains sometimes only until I may acknowledge other people who have done greater things than me, and so I start being ungrateful, I start complaining and I set higher goals to be achieved, sometimes harder ones. I am not saying that this attitude is always wrong because this can be viewed as a way I motivate myself to achieve more and more. But it is wrong to underestimate myself only by comparing myself with others. I think this is a bad habit that makes me unhappy and depressed (when I am) and I think a lot of other people are in this same situation.

I do am very happy with my achievements! … As far as I am not comparing myself with others, my level of happiness is high. But to what extent do other people influence us in a bad way? My own experience with this feeling of not being worthy comes from the moment when people relate to me, as if they would know better what is good or bad for me. There are so many people, also in my life, people who know how to judge for what I do, for what I am, for what I want to be, for my actions in general … and to resume, for the way I live my life. I mean, I also most of the time, advice others not to let themselves influenced by what other people think, but can we really do this? – Not to worry at all?

I can do this, most of the time, to the extent I can express my feedback in speaking – when I tell loudly what I think about their advices; but it is not the same inside. I still think about it; we in general still think about it, we analyse it; we make judgements about our own decisions and think twice if we are on the correct way in our choice. I mean, it should not matter, but it does. We do not make it loud, but we stress ourselves – and if I should not say this as a generalization, I mean it for myself.

And at the end, why is it so? Why other people are so interested and fascinated making other people´s life difficult? They discuss with such a passion about others, they make it their own issue and they know better how the whole situation can be handled. … They tend to advice you, they criticize you; they make sure you know their own opinion and sometimes, when you allow them, they make sure they are in a position of controlling your final decision.

“Why do we tend to spend so much time judging and criticizing others? Why are not we spending the same amount of time improving our own life? Is it because most of those who spend time on criticizing others life have nothing interesting to say about their own? Then why not develop the interest in finding the best that lies in us. In this way we enrich our life and let others enrich their own. This can be viewed as a life lesson, but why is it than so hard to apply this lesson to our own experience?”

I think, in my own opinion, we are so stressed out with handling our own life that, it is easier to start handling others, and that is because from this position we do not have the need to ACT? When we make decisions, the way it works, the way we can see results, it is all correlated with the way we act. Acting is not easy and we sometimes are afraid of acting because we are not sure of the way the action will lead us. We may not know in advance if it is a good decision, not until we act and experience it. We can than experience a happy ending or not a happy one at all.

When we decide for others, we make it easier for our own belief system, that the decision is good. And we will think: “As long it is not me who has to handle the situation that comes as a result of action on that decision, it is good”. Experiencing this, we also make assumptions about the results. If we personally have had good results, we estimate others should also have; but if our results were not what we expected, than we tend to advice others not to act in the way we did, without allowing them experience the results.

I experience so many times to be in a group of people which topic of discussion was about other people’s life. Worrying, complaining, and even deciding the way they should have done things, criticizing everything about others lifestyle, way of decision they may have made and I can tell the passion you could see in their eyes when they were talking about, the frustration they lived for the end result of others decisions – a totally theatrical theory which made their day successful somehow, ending the discussion with the feeling of having done something worthy that day, for themselves and maybe for the person she/he was in debate.

I sometimes make the same mistake by mixing my own opinion in others decisions but I am glad when I recognize the moment, and for my good, I try to change it in the other direction where I allow myself to learn maybe something worthy from others experience, make a decision for myself on what was good and not, then decide that it is better accepting people as they are, because they are the person they themselves want to experience to be. We all are what we produce out of us based on our own decision, even when we are being influenced – sometimes.

But, can we stop others make decisions for us? Is this a good or bad thing to do? How can we know this? How can we change the situation if there should be something to be changed? I do not have a correct answer for that but what I most of the time do, is first recognize when somebody is trying to just give bad advices without knowing me; I recognize the way and the reason they may try to influence me and I act by either avoiding them or stopping them in a nice way. Being open and telling them to let me make my own mind about a certain thing is not always understood correctly. People may perceive this act as an attack or just criticism and also, this does not always mean that people will stop talking. It is just a matter of time until they will start again; it only matters the way we learn to handle the situation by making the correct decisions – decisions that are correct for us.

When people starts inundate me with unexpected or undesired opinions, I have learned to avoid any discussion by just ignoring them … sometimes in a nice way. If they do not understand when I tell them something and continuously are trying to force me accepting their opinion, than the only way to make them ´disappear´ or stop is by ignoring them. It may not be always the smart way of deciding, but it is the way I decide for myself as being the better one, which by meaning – is sometimes a good one.

Giving an example: 3 years ago (2007) I decide not to eat meat any more. That by meaning I was becoming a vegetarian. The decision was purely made by me and with a 100% certainty! I just felt I do not want to eat meat any more, that I feel better and healthier in this way; I not only decided but felt it as being the right decision for me. I just do not feel the need or the wish of trying meat. It is unexplainable sometimes, but I was and still am very sure about my decision. Since then, people around me tried and are still trying to convince me that my decision was bad. Most of them developed ways of convincing me to taste meat, tried to “feed” my mind with idea of scientifically proves on how eating meat would make me be normal. I mean, what does being normal mean? There are a lot of scientifically proves that smoking is bad for the body and the mind and though people who smoke try to convince me that being a vegetarian is bad and wrong. Please, I can only laugh about it!!! It is unbelievable how much stress they send me and how unavoidable they sometimes can be. When telling somebody I am vegetarian it is as if the whole conversation should stress this topic and nothing else for the next 30 minutes. Sometimes I feel bad bringing this topic in a conversation, not any more though, only if I have to be in a situation of refusing the meal by explaining my reasons. I mean, it is OK for people asking me about my reasons, wanting them to understand my decision but I do not agree with those who just want to convince me that I am wrong by deciding for a certain way. I am always also curious how other people can succeed in being perseverant in some of their decisions, I also ask them questions if I hear about something not that popular but I do not argue about their decision, I most of the time admire people who stick to their own life by remaining perseverant and focused and I think that it is good supporting them. I am not saying I do not have people around me who do understand my point of view, who do support me and people who do agree with the way I run my life. I was just mentioning those who are continuously worrying about my lack of meat in my body or other kind of worries which in my opinion, should not represent their focus. Poor them! And as this example, many other examples can be explained and discussed the same way.

In this concern I have learned to try to focus most of the time on my own life, on my own decisions; on my own accomplishments and failures and try to learn something good out of them; the rest of the time looking by other´s results, analysing what I want to learn from them, something that may bring satisfaction in my life and something that can be a useful lessons for my future decisions. This is how I believe, I enrich my life.

Be good with yourself! and thanks for reading this article.

Gabriela

CHALLENGE … is our life a continuous challenge? Is my life a challenge?

It is being so long since I have posted something, written by me and about me, on this blog. And for those who like my blog and check from time to time to see what new stuff I have written, about maybe things that happen in my life, I am sorry to have disappointed you with anything new. … But I promise I will try to find time for new sharing.

What meaning have challenges in our life and what should they represent for each other? What would challenges represent for me?

It is one year since I decide to move into a complete new place, new country, new society and culture, the kind of decision that changed my life somehow completely. One year and things looks different right now. I lived new exciting experiences, some of which were sad and heartbroken, others happy and joyful, some accomplishments and failures, feelings of stability but also of insecurity; I have learned new languages, new habits, and new people but not to forget about the old life patterns and style that brought me sometimes to the end of my limits of acceptance and endurance, patterns that I was not yet prepared to change or improve. One year, time that I spend in finding the best ways to go further for achieving my life and professional goals, one year of analyzing my mistakes in order to make sure I take the best decisions and I surely go in the right direction. There were times of self confidence and believe but also times of disbelieve and low self esteem. I sometimes wanted to be alone, other times crowded by people.

Being in a complete new environment means also being surrounded by complete strangers, people that you may not know if you should trust or not, people who ended to misuse my feelings but also lot of those who smoothly touched my heart with joy and compassion. There were times of appreciation and times of regret; times of love and times of hate. But two things which matter most were the feelings of having learned something new about me, of having learned a new lesson that made me who I am today and specially accepting to be a lucky person who had and still has at her side, a partner that knows how to bring the best out of me, a partner who encourages me and supports me in all my decisions. For that, I am most grateful and thankful.

This article is an introduction in a new series of short stories about my life and my experiences. It is mostly about life lessons and challenges. I believe one must experience the most diverse things in life in order to be able to appreciate not only the good out of every experience, but the lessons out of those bad ones.

Yes, there were good times! Yes, there were bad times, too! But all those good and bad experiences are the end result of today. And for what it matters, today I am happy. At the end of each bad or good day I remember myself to appreciate my life, to appreciate what I have and what I am. I smile in front of the mirror and I try to feel the feeling of happiness. I sometimes lie myself but after few seconds smiling in that mirror, I can really feel it, I can really feel the moment of appreciation, the feeling of gratefulness. It may not always be easy, but I also remember myself that in every experience there is a lesson. A lesson that I have to learn a lesson that represents the end result of my being. And so, at the end of each day, I feel more mature, more confident, blessed and definitely stronger.

As I have learned during all this time – we are what we produce out of ourselves; and we should be happy for the best parts of our life experiences – the good parts as well as the bad ones, comparing the example of the need for salt and sugar in our daily meals. We cannot feed ourselves with only sweets as well as our life would be senseless without bad experiences from which we are suppose to learn something good out of them. Our meals taste much better by adding additional ingredients such as salt and pepper. Bad, good, all this combined is going to be reflected into our final product, our cooked meal or our present being.

My message in these shared thoughts is that we have to learn to combine life experiences; to learn how to use the bad experience to our own advantage. To learn what has to be changed. Learn to enjoy all the experiences we may have. This will bring joy and satisfaction to our life. Learn how to enjoy ourselves, with good and bad, with tears and smiles, with new and with old.

I want to tell you about one concrete example, explaining what I mean about challenges.

One year ago I moved to Copenhagen, Denmark. In the hope that everything will be fun and easy, I find out that stepping out of my comfort zone was much harder than I ever wanted to estimate. The first challenge, that of learning Danish language which I thought it should be easy, it ended to be the most difficult one. Deciding to learn Danish language is, first of all, just as deciding to learn two languages in the same time – the written and the spoken one. I struggled a lot at the beginning … maybe also because I was constantly telling myself and others how difficult it is and how impossible it seems to be when I needed to act. It took me a month to start and after starting it took me few weeks to get the basics. I may have had the need for a tutor, a native one, but I stubborn into thinking that I can do it all by myself – as usual. I decided at one point that school would be too slow for me and so I start teaching myself the advanced part of the Danish language, challenging myself each day more and more. H. C. Andersen’s fairytales became my favorite ones and because I found not only the books but also audios, I was listening again and again for many days in a row. In the beginning nothing made sense, I was not able to understand much but I never gave up believing that one day all this will seem very easy … and indeed that day came, though after about two other months. I start to volunteer in centers where Danish was the main communication language, I start discussing with different kind of people on streets and shops, I listen constantly to radio and watched news on TV, I got involved in so many activities as possible in order to improve the language that, at the end of about six months I could handle quite well. I was and still am proud of my successes in this area; the kind of challenge that seems impossible became possible, only that it took some time. The time is not ended and I still have to improve a lot, but I did it. I believe, life teaches us how to face problems and challenges in a kind and easy manner but we seem to struggle believing that, and we sometimes make out of our experience a negative and hard one.

This was and still is, for example, the kind of challenge I had to face when decisions about moving here seemed to be reasonable. (I will talk about other challenges in the next article)

My next article will relate to the following question:

“Why do we tend to spend so much time judging and criticizing others? Why are not we spending the same amount of time improving ourselves / our own life? Is it because most of those who spend time on criticizing others life have nothing interesting to say about their own? Then why not develop the interest in finding the best that lies in us. In this way we enrich our life and let others enrich their own. This can be viewed as a life lesson, but why is it than so hard to apply this lesson to our own experiences?”

I will relate this question to my own life experience and a new challenge, but in the upcoming article.

If you would like to read about specific kind of examples I have linked in this article, I will appreciate your comment. And so I will introduce your question to my article where I will post a concrete example of the kind of experience you want to read about.

Thank you for reading this article. Enjoy life!

Gabriela

Good morning LIFE!!! ...

what a beautiful way to start this wonderful day ... I hope you will enjoy this as much as I did this morning :)





Dean Martin - Good Morning

Good morning life
Good morning sun how are your skies above
Gee it's great to be alive and in love

Good morning life
Good morning birds sing out your happy tunes
Feels so good because I'll be seeing her soon

Last night she said she loved me
What a pity to part
I slept with both eyes open waiting for today to start

Good morning life
Good morning world how are you happiness
All at once I know what livin' can be
It's life, it's free, it's someone waiting for me
Who'll someday be my wife, good morning life

Good morning life
Good morning life

Last night she said she loved me
What a pity to part
I slept with both eyes open waiting for today to start

Good morning life
Good morning world how are you happiness
All at once I know what livin' can be
Ah it's life, it's free, it's someone waiting for me
Who'll someday be my wife, good morning life

Ten Rules for Being Human

by Cherie Carter-Scott

1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's yours to keep for the entire period.

2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, "life."

3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately "work."

4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

5. Learning lessons does not end. There's no part of life that doesn't contain its lessons. If you're alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.

6. "There" is no better a place than "here." When your "there" has become a "here", you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here."

7. Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

9. Your answers lie within you. The answers to life's questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

10. You will forget all this.

You want to Believe in Yourself? This can be a huge factor for Accomplishing your Dreams, your Goals in life!

What does it take to believe in you?

I may agree to start first advising you to develop a positive attitude, optimism and confidence, being able to realize how amazing you are as a human being. Of course, I would not say that this is really easy.

Giving an example on myself, I always find a lot of things that hinder me, that hold me back and most of them run me slowly but sure, down. And I mean this when talking about the things you find impossible to have in order to be able to achieve your dream. May I dare to mention something about money? Yes, I believe you also agree with me. BUT! I also truly believe, that if you really want to achieve, accomplish something in life, a dream, it is possible and money represent nothing. When your WILL is primary, nothing else is important.

No matter what the steps are to get your dreams accomplished, I wrote some tips for develop a believe in yourself that help you accomplish your dreams and I really hope it will help you:

• Think about all the great things you know about yourself. This will help you believe you're amazing and increase your confidence in yourself. Don't be humble when you're thinking about this. Truly … think of all the things about you that are wonderful. Are you smart, witty, sweet, fun to be around, good to your friends...or more? What qualities you see on yourself, qualities that strike others and motivate them? Most people are complimented on something good about their personalities. Think about the nice things people have said about you and allow yourself to write them down. Believing in yourself comes from feeling good about who you are. When you like yourself, you are more likely to believe in yourself and motivated to accomplish your dreams. If you believe in yourself, people around you offer more respect. And if you feel respected, the confidence that you can achieve things, increases.

• Now think about the dreams you want to accomplish. What do you truly want to do? What really motivates you to achieve? Maybe a new job you have in mind, a new home you want to buy, or new people you want to meet and places you want to visit? Write down all the things you would like to do in your life and take them under your primary focus. Make a list of what steps need to be taken in order to accomplish these dreams. Once you write the steps to your dreams down, you will find that they are actually attainable. Believe in yourself and know that you have the skills and ambition to be able to accomplish these dreams. Know that any dream you want to accomplish is never out of reach.

• It is much easier if you put yourself in the right mind set to accomplish your dreams. Believe that you are good enough, smart enough, outgoing enough to accomplish your goals. Changing your attitude from negative to positive isn't always easy and is going to take some work, but it can be done. The first most important thing, for getting anything done, is the requirement of changing your attitude. Never say 'I can't'. Instead, always say 'I will', 'I am', 'I can'. If you must, trick your mind into believing in optimistic ways. The more you tell yourself you can do something and that you are amazing, the more you will start to believe it. There is honestly something good and wonderful in everybody, and you are no different. Start today believing in yourself and changing your mind set to understand and know your greatness.

• Find and attract people around you, people that believe and trust you. Being surrounded by others that adore you and know you are a great person, will strengthen you confidence and you will always be able to be lifted up, when something negative ´touches´ you. Listen to those people like friends, family, and maybe your partner who love you and see amazing things in you. Is nothing bad to ask them their opinion about you, what they truly think of you? There should always be a reason for these people to stay in your life and often it's because you are someone they want to be around, because you a great person. If this is the case, why not believe it? People who appreciate and love you, can be the one who motivate you to accomplish your dreams by encouraging in your decisions. Ask them to help; only if they are the one with whom you feel comfortable about this.

I believe everything you want to achieve in life, need the confidence and the will to do so. Anything comes just because you write it down. Believing you deserve it, and trusting your instincts that it could be a good thing for you, is unbelievable helpful in increasing your confidence.

You may find difficult to deal with people, to deal with so called ´reality´ but remember that reality is what you create as being. Sometimes I myself struggle into believing all this stuff. But I mostly realize that nothing I really want to achieve is unachievable. And because I dare to choose, I choose mostly the best I believe is good for me.

Dare to choose :)

Ella