Curing Victimitis

Watch your thoughts; they lead to attitudes.

Watch your attitudes; they lead to words.

Watch your words; they lead to actions.

Watch your actions; they lead to habits.

Watch your habits; they form your character.

Watch your character; it determines your destiny.

These words of unknown origin tell us that our silent and often subconscious choices shape our future. Every aspect of our lives, at home and at work, can be improved if we use our power to think, reflect, and make conscious choices about our thoughts, attitudes, words, actions, and habits.

Instead, many of us think of ourselves as victims. We complain about our circumstances and what others did to us. Whatever psychological comfort there is in feeling powerless and blameless when things aren't going right, in the end, victims lead unsatisfied lives.

We're most vulnerable to victimitis when we're under the influence of powerful emotions like fear, insecurity, anger, frustration, grief, or depression. These feelings are so powerful, we believe our state of mind is inevitable. Our only hope is they will go away on their own. Yet it's during times of emotional tumult that using our power to choose our thoughts and attitudes is most important. We can't make pain go away, but we can refuse to suffer.

Even when we don't like any of our choices, we do have some -- once we realize we can take control. It isn't easy, but what we do and how we choose to feel about ourselves has a profound impact on the quality of our lives. Victims may get sympathy for a while, but that isn't enough.
Taking personal responsibility for our happiness and success can be scary, but the payoff is enormous. Although we can't make our lives perfect, we can make them better -- usually a lot better.

Michael Josephson http://www.charactercounts.org

Life´s Little Lessons

"Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand."

Albert Einstein
1879-1955, Physicist

Don´t go for looks, they can deceive. Don´t go for wealth even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile.

There are moments in life when you really miss someone that you want to pick them up from your dreams and hug them. Hope you dream of that someone.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens. But we often took so long at the closed door, that we don´t see the one which has been opened for us.

The best kind of friend is the one you could sit on a porch, swing with, never saying a word and then walk away feeling like that was the best conversation you´ve had.

The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them with our own image, otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone and a day to love someone - but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched and those who have tried. For only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.

Love starts with a smile, develops with a kiss and ends with a tear.

Never say goodbye you still want to try; Never give up when you still feel you can take it; Never say you don´t love that person anymore when you can´t let go.

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they´ll love you back. Don´t expect love in return, just wait for it to grow in their hearts, but if it doesn´t be content it grew in yours.

There are things you love to hear but you would never hear it from the person whom you would like to hear it from, but don´t be deaf to hear it from the person who says it with his heart.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live life to the fullest so that when you die, you´re smiling and everyone around you is crying.



Today´s words of inspiration :)

Ella